How to stop loving someone who doesn’t love you anymore. When love separates or when someone hurts you emotionally, it is you who have to make the decision, whether you want to take up the opportunity and walk away or allow the feeling to destroy you or allow it to make you stronger.
When someone you love hurts you emotionally, that pain, anger, betrayal and frustration hurts. Actually, tends to destroy us within. 90% of the people take the love seriously because it is a healthy relationship between two people. For me, love is all about treating the people the way you want them to treat you.
How to Stop Loving Someone After a Breakup
~Pema Chödrön
What I think that when the feelings or love is not reciprocated, we get hurt. We get hurt because we expect from people whom we love. Never expect the same love and respect from the person the way you do. We do get hurt from different people in our lives.
Like, if my colleague does hurt me, then I would take few steps to rectify the things and move on with it. But what if someone you love hurt you emotionally? Do you know how to stop loving someone who hurt you emotionally?
When we get hurt from the person whom we love, the walls crumble, confidence weakens, trust broken and all we are left with the questions which are unanswerable. And only the time can answer them. So, just give yourself time which you desperately need.
Avoid making the decisions in a second. Just take sufficient time for yourself and understanding the situation. Love yourself, it is the greatest love. Don’t forget yourself, because you deserve to be loved.
I never thought of writing this article, but received few queries from my readers who want me to specify the things which can be done to stop loving man or women who hurt you emotionally. And here, I would be sharing my personal views. They might be similar to the ones which you follow.
GIVE TIME
You love the person who hurt you emotionally. And it is the time when both, your mind and heart at a complete war. You are still in love with the person and your heart will take you through a replay of all those happy moments. It will try to convince you.
But your mind will comprehend that the person actually hurt you emotionally and their feelings changed over time. You take your time to think over the situation because your heart and mind will take a time to get into an alignment.
SOCIALIZE
Try to socialize with other people around you. Do mourn over the loss of your loved one, but don’t stay alone. Staying alone will make you miss the person more. So, it is best to hang out with people who love you.
SET GOALS
YES. It is the right time to set your personal goals. Don’t forget you have your own dreams. You have to achieve those goals. So, just plan out how you can. Throw the person out of life and make some space to create your own life, your career.
NO CONTACT
Avoid having any contacts with the person who no longer loves you. Just delete everything from your social media accounts about the person. You have to delete the contact information of the person as well.
Situations are different and the degrees of getting hurt are different because they depend on the people who hurt you. STEP BACK. Most of the times people hurt you emotionally as it comes out of anger.
Avoid reacting to those feelings and just step back. We should try keeping our head cool. Think clearly and leave. DO NOT SPEAK THE WORDS WHICH YOU ARE THINKING.
The next thing is little hard but important to follow if you really want to stop loving someone who doesn’t deserve you and that is TIME. We know that everything gets healed with time.
Just take sufficient time to move on in life. You can talk to the person or anyone close to you about the situation. If they ignore you or don’t listen to your words, then the person doesn’t care about you. MOVE ON.
I don’t think that I will be able to give you the perfect answer to how to stop loving someone who hurt you emotionally, because it varies, depends on the person who actually did hurt you. And also, it depends on the pain. It is painful when someone we love hurt us emotionally.
But if you know the tips to move on and stop loving the person, then it is the best to love your life. According to me, the most difficult time is when the person whom you love hurts you emotionally.
Do have patience with yourself. It is difficult to stop loving someone and it does take time, but it is not an impossible thing. Life is all about having good and bad days.
You just have to remind yourself that you have to let go the person off from your life who broke your emotionally. Just keep letting go of the relationship and believe me in no time you will get through it successfully.
How to Stop Thinking About Someone
If you would ask me, then I am discussing it with you guys. I am just writing the things which worked for me. I do take out time for myself and figure about how to rebuild the trust in the relationship.
So, I ask you people the same question, ‘What you will do when someone you love will hurt you emotionally?’ ‘How you will address the situation or what steps you will take?’ I am waiting for your response guys. Do comment, don’t hesitate.
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We shared love for as long as i could remember,but suddenly everything changed,everything i does irritates him and he picks on me at any point,with these I was deeply hurt by My ex husband,he hurts me emotionally,and did a lot behind me which i don’t know about,yet he constantly accuses me of cheating on him while i was totally faithful and submissive to him. but thanks to Media lord for helping me to hack his phone for knowing all he was doing behind me,now i know that infidelity was the reason behind my marital dryness.knowing the truth hurts,but it settles the mind,now he wants me back but i can’t really turn back the hands of time.I really thank him for where i am today,i wouldn’t have realized this much joy i have today without the hurt.
This is marvelous, everything is so good, this article is very helpful for those who are emotionally broken by their lovers. Thank you so much for this article.
Thanks for your answer
But after throwing out from our life
We have one hasitate feeling that
She had done that because our life should be go best
She had sacrifice for us.
That 6&9 formula comes in between
Just because u r right doesn’t mean that I am wrong
U have not seen life from my perspective
Plz comments I also want to clear the situation
Thanks for your super comment, but honestly, I didn’t get anything that you are trying to say 😛
Hi, thanks for the article which came across my way exactly at the right time. The words were like listening to my own self. Incidentally for me he was everything coz i hardly socialized. In such situations its more difficult to cope up with the situation. I’ve started reading books of motivational subjects and also getting inclined towards spirituality. I don’t want to carry any kind of baggage to my future. I don’t want to turn out to be a bitter person. Its helping me. I want to forgive him for my good being. I’m trying..I’m hopeful. Just thought of sharing this with you.
Hey! I do understand your situation because I have gone through the same. But I would suggest you to start socializing with people. You will have fun. We have one life and we must enjoy it fully. One person gone from our lives doesn’t mean that we won’t move forward. We have to live it with fun.